Authority is power over oneself to transform himself or herself into service for the other. It must be principally directed towards oneself not towards the other. When authority is interpreted as a power over the other, it loses its authentic meaning. Actually, when you don’t have authority over yourself, is when you try to control others. Authority of a father is the ability to transform himself into a good father and not in controlling the children. The more you can give yourself to the other to become what you are, the more authority you will have.