Identity is a great force
When you are offended or when you feel offended, normally first reaction is payback or pullback. The attitude of revenge or attitude to pull back arises from the desire to defend yourselves. But they are not the right ways to defend yourselves. One of the ways to defend yourself is to have shock absorbers in you. The best shock absorber against offenses is the right self-esteem. If you know who you are, no one can offend you. The more ignorant you are about yourself, the more you get offended. Find the best in you and that is the best shock absorber.